I have found being compassionate to my old ways has helped tremendously in the morphing process. Not saying this is just who I am, but rather, this is who I believed I had to be. Now I can be something different.
-- A Comment to yesterday's post by Hmmbrd
When I read this comment, I knew Hmmbrd was onto something really important, and something that, I think, is a key "next step."
First, we identify all these Chicks that stand in the way of our essence, our BlissChick, our evolving, and then we show them compassion, as we would any annoying stranger who enters our "work space."
These StuckChicks (for want of a better moniker) are telling us something if only we would get still and listen.
These StuckChicks are cheerleaders, really, for all of our old wounds and unmet needs and just generally hurt and unloved parts.
StuckChicks are not to be ignored or shut out. Oh, no, then they will just grow in their power, eventually taking over the office with all their passive-aggressiveness or repression or whatever psychological technique is the favorite of our minds.
My StuckChicks? They love to beat me up! Attack my self-esteem. Tell me that what I do does not matter and so why do I bother? Mean!
This is really a case of killing them with kindness.
We're going to tell them that we see them and that we understand them and then eventually we'll figure out what all their yelling or sabotaging is about and some day, in the not so distant future, we will realize that we have brought all our StuckChicks into the flow of our Bliss.
Let's start the process with a little fun!
I want you to pick your "favorite" stuck chick -- or even two or three of your favorites. You know, the ones that are taking up most of your precious time -- the ones that you feel the most intense negativity toward.
Then I want you to make a collage of some sort that represents her or them.
Include images that express who she is and how she manifests in your life.
But also include images of WHY she acts like this in your life.
Try to let this process be as intuitive as possible. Don't question. Just do. Think about her and see what she shows you.
The last step would be to make an altar area for her and then to spend some time with her. Meditate on her. Really listen.
Because somewhere in your past, she wasn't listened to at all and that is the core issue.
Hear her out.
She has needs and we're eventually going to meet them.
If you blog this, please come back and leave a link; we would all love to see what we all do for this exercise.
I may include my work in a blog post next week.
(Photo & Text Copyright: Christine C. Reed, blisschick.net, 2009)