Wednesday, September 23, 2009

WishCasting: Essentials are Not Luxuries


Jamie's wishcasting prompt for me today is difficult for many reasons. She asks:

What luxury do you wish for?

You may know from reading here that I have a bit of an AsceticChick inside of me. You know, part of me thinks I should be some sort of Monk, but the reality is that we aren't all made for that, and I am a Crow, a collector of shiny bits.

But living in a Western culture, I worry about my ability to differentiate between what is necessary and what is not, what is okay and what is too much.

So much of how we live is really Luxury: families not only have one car for themselves but usually multiples; there are people who live in enough space for a small village; we have so much rich food available that most of us are overweight.

But then so much of how we live is Poverty:

How many of you don't have the time to do the things that are essential to your well being, your sanity, your fulfillment as a human being?

How many of you feel trapped by your life?

How many of you feel stifled?

How many of you walk around afraid to feel anything because you might just explode if you start?

How many of you numb yourself with more food, more shoes, more bags, more, more, more, and justify it this way: "I work hard; I deserve this" -- thereby trapping yourself in a vicious cycle of having to work more to pay for things that you are working for?

The definition of Luxury is Inessential and Extravagant.

There is nothing Inessential and Extravagant about being true to yourself.

So my wish today is not really for myself, though I can use a bit of this some days, too. My wish today is for others:

I wish for people to recognize how they sacrifice the Essential for Material Luxury. I wish for people to become free of Material Burdens so that they might have their True Lives.


(Photo & Text Copyright: Christine C. Reed, blisschick.net, 2009)

36 comments:

City Girl said...

So so true. As you wish for all, I wish for you :)

And I love love love the pink chairs.

differenceayearmakes said...

As Christine wishes for us all, I wish for us also.

Tabitha@ichoosebliss.net said...

That's a true and heartfelt wish Christine!

As Christine wishes for us all, so do I joyfully wish for her also.

Diva Kreszl said...

very wise...as you wish for yourself, so I lovingly wish for you also!

Lisa said...

Thank you for this wish. :)

I am seeing this whole cycle and 'sickness' with new eyes now. And seeking to free myself from the entanglements that have had me bound for so long.

LOVE the photo of the pink chairs!

Ellen said...

As Christine wishes for us, so do I joyfully wish for her also.

Karen D said...

Well Said Christine, I have similiar struggles not knowing what a true luxury is or feeling ok with the simple luxuries in life that have more meaning than the material.
Thank you for this wish.
As Christine wishes for us, so I wish for her also.

Girlie-Queue said...

I'm giving this post my "CannAhgettanAMENSistah" Amen sistah.

Truly you have found the nail and smacked it's head with precision.

As the most Ascetic, beautiful, talented, courageous, and sometimes cranky :) BlissChick wishes for herself and all of us (thanks♥), so too do I wish for BlissChick and all of us with all love and sincerity.
~Shamsi

Girlie-Queue said...

ewww... someone flogged themselves over this a couple of weeks ago and now I see that I too feel like flogging myself for using a contraction on a possessive 'its' ouch. Okay I forgive myself...moving on.

Betsy Brown said...

As Christine wishes for us all, so do I wish for us as well.

Jennifer Schildknecht said...

Well said, as always my Dear!
As you so generously wish for us all, so I wish for you!

Tracy said...

As Christine wishes for us all, so I wish for us also.

Your post really spoke to me today. :)

Lee said...

As you wish for us, I wish for you!

Must say I'm pretty clear on the extravagances ... my wish is for a cook :) Great perspective, as always.

Miche | Serenity Hacker said...

Perfect post, and a great wish! "Trapped" and "Afraid" are two key words.

So many of us spend time wishing for more, focusing on what we lack and caught in the vicious cycle of trying to get it, material or otherwise.

How nice life is when we can be more carefree.

Yes, there is nothing inessential and extravagant about being true TO ourselves, and being TRULY ourselves, imperfections and all!

Cheers.
Miche :)

Giulietta the Muse said...

Hey Christine,

Am with you on this one! Definitely a poverty mentality for the things we really want versus the ones we are conditioned to go for. How much stuff do we need? If we let go of that need, we can do more of what we want. We need to change the focus of our economy from quantitative to qualitative. I wish for your wish for others to come true!

Giulietta, Inspirational Rebel

WrightStuff said...

You know what, I have a tough financial decision to make in my life and reading this really re-affirmed what I feel. Personal happiness is the luxury! Thank you!!

Linnea said...

Once again, The BlissChick distills the truth into a few powerful words.

I live in a modest neighborhood surrounded by country clubs and country-club wannabes. I moved over here for the schools and I benefit from the convenience. Other than that, I'm a fish out of water over here, because I'm not playing the "Joneses game." Would I occasionally like more disposable cash? Sure, but not to acquire a new handbag. I'd use it to haul my rear up to Cleveland this weekend, because Soul Food is much more important than the latest purse.

As Christine wishes for herself and all of us, so I wish for her and all of us also.

Jane said...

Amen, sister!! I couldn't agree more. As you wish for yourself today, I wish for you also.

Holly said...

Blissy:

Two Things: Yes, you are completely correct.

Next Thing: Don't come to my blog today because I failed the test.

I hope you're not disappointed too badly in me.

As Christine is wise enough to wish for herself and all of us, so I lovingly and with intention wish also.

But, I have to stand by my wish today...I just have to!

KathrynAntyr said...

Wow what a great post. Many of us do sacrifice in the pursuit of luxury.

As Christine wishes for us, so do I joyfully wish for her also.

Rebekah said...

As you wish for all, so I wish also.

This is so true, and a reminder I, and others, I'm sure, need.

KnittingJourneyman said...

As Christine wishes for all of us, I so wish for her and for us as well...

Carmen said...

I live in California and work in one of the richest areas, yes, i can tell you stories and the presures of judgments of taking public transportation.
i think that was the reason your blog got my attention one day when you admit publicly not having a car and being happy.
and now you know i adore your honesty and all of your gifts.
hugs!

As Christine wishes for all of us I wish for us also.

Pennie said...

As Christine wishes for all of us, I joyfully wish for her also.

I gave up the materialistic life style years ago and am so much happier. I now work less and have much more time to do. It's so worth it.

Tim King said...

Good thought. I wrote about this recently, myself. When we turn to materialism for happiness, we're bound to suffer unhappiness.

As Christine wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.

-TimK

Genie Sea said...

As Christine wishes for everyone, so I wish also! :)

How absolutely, positively, indubitably true! May we all experience that awakening. :)

Anna said...

A truth I'm still struggling with...thank you.

As Christine wishes for us all, so I also wish for us also

Amy said...

Yessssssss!

Silky Hart said...

As Christine wishes for us all, so do I wish for her also.

Beverley Baird said...

Now that is a powerful wish. Thank you for wishing that for us all!
As Christine wishes for all of us , so I wish for her also.

Sarah said...

As Christine wishes for us all, I wish for us also.
Christine..you are so very right hon..what a wonderful post!! Wowo - gonna have to contemplate this one some more. Hugs hon, Sarah

Stacy Hurt said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gLBE5QAYXp8&feature=player_embedded

The story of Stuff... essential for understanding materials and consumerism and why and how we got this way. We need to STOP ruining our planet!

Dreamwriter said...

As Christine wishes for us all, so do I wish for us as well.

kazari said...

What a wise wish!
As Christine wishes, so I wish also : )
May we all recognise the difference between essentials and luxuries.

karmacoy said...

Dear Christine, I don't know how I neglected to leave my wish for you here yesterday... we seemed to be following each other about on other bloggers comment boxes.

As Christine so wisely wishes for us, I also wish for all of us!!

I am right now making my list of essentials vrs. luxuries!!

Cindy said...

Amen, Sistah!

I spent quite a bit of time thinking about this same issue, although my own blog post selfishly takes a more personal approach. You're wish is a wonderful one. Bless you.

As Christine wishes for all of us, so do I enthusiastically and lovingly wish for us also!