Friday, March 26, 2010
Treat Yourself Like Someone You Love
(Driftwood at the peninsula.)
An excerpt from near the end of Locker Room Diaries: The Naked Truth About Women, Body Image, and Re-Imagining the "Perfect" Body by Leslie Goldman, in which the author has asked elder women about their bodies. This particular section is from Linda, age 63, an author and psychotherapist:
I remember a friend said to me, "You never had good mothering. Now it's time to mother yourself." So every morning, I say things to myself like, "What do you need today?"
I also use other methods to nurture my body, such as restorative yoga, resting my neck every day, and traveling to exotic places with my husband, where we snorkel. I stay hydrated. I pray. I treat my body as I would treat someone I love very much. These acts have brought me to radiant and resilient health -- so much so that I have gone from crippling joint pain to being pain free, without medication.
A lot of women carry shame about how we look. Many of us are undergoing surgery, even at a very young age. One of my tips is to massage every part of the body with scented oil and a brush. As I do this, I thank each part of my body...It's very affirming and gets rid of so much negativity about our body image.
What do you need today?
Can you imagine asking yourself that every day? Perhaps we could all try to do this each morning for just a week and see how it changes our lives.
For more inspiration along these lines, go listen to this podcast with Kimberly Wilson, in which she interviews Diane Cesa about Doses of Pleasure.