Something I am thinking a lot about: there are as many ways as there are humans to have Giant Egos.
A popular Giant Ego right now that is masquerading as Advanced Spirituality: I am in control of everything. How I feel has absolutely everything to do with me. If I perceive someone else as grouchy, a pain in the ass, etc., it is really me. I am completely in charge of my life experience.
Okay. Some of that seems okay on the surface.
But it also gets awfully close to Blame the Victim.
Sometimes shit happens outside of you and it affects you. Yes, how you respond is up to you, but emotions like grief, anger, hurt, pain are all part of the human spectrum of experience, and if you don't feel those shadows, I am afraid of you.
If you try to eradicate those shadows at every turn, I am afraid of you.
No light without dark is true.
This is not Heaven or Nirvana...not yet...and we are here to experience all of it and sometimes, some things just suck. Sometimes some people are just behaving badly. Sometimes it is not our job to fix it.
Feeling okay about all of your feelings -- that is true compassion for the self.
This is me giving all of us permission to get our PissedChick on -- or our AngerChick or our GrouchyChick or whatever chick just happens to show up.
PerfectSpiritualChick? She, on the other hand, is, like, so NOT welcome.