Sunday, May 8, 2011
When Mother's Day is Difficult
There are a million reasons why Mother's day is difficult for many of us, and those reasons aren't what we are here to talk about.
We're hear to talk about the difficulty of this day. A day (preceded by many days, really) when Twitter and Facebook are filled with mama-love and most people don't give a second thought to the pain that this causes many of us.
Which is fine. I am happy for you if you were blessed with good and positive and healthy and lasting human mother love.
But again, many of us weren't or aren't.
Here are a few things I have done to help with this:
I have learned to nurture the small girl in me. She loves color and sparkly things and fluff and silliness. I try to give her as much of this as I can.
I have nurtured relationships with some beautiful, loving women a generation or more older than me. I am blessed by their presence in my life.
And a really, really big part of this mother puzzle for me: I have developed a life rich with Marian devotion.
Maybe Mary isn't your schtick but the point is to find some feminine divinity with which to create a relationship of compassion and unconditional love.
This may seem silly to you; you may not see the point, but it has changed my life. It has healed my heart.