Thursday, July 21, 2011
My Apologies & My Love to You
(I don't usually dance in a long skirt, but I was leading a special drum/Afro-Caribbean dance night and so I got a lovely elephant skirt to wear. I am in the purple top. Then there were other lovely skirts and Marcy got some wonderful blurry dancing skirt shots, so I thought I would share.)
Oh, wow, do I have a lot on my mind.
You know, if you read here with any regularity, that I am very passionate about having overcome depression, anxiety, and a whole host of craptastic brain issues without the aid of pharmaceuticals. I also am passionate about the intentionality of pharmaceutical companies in their efforts to pathologize human nature and get more and more of us on unnecessary drugs.
When I write about this issue, I try to be veryVERY clear that there are cases when drugs are helpful and furthermore, necessary for survival.
But recently a couple of things have brought to my attention the pain that this type of polarization is bringing to people.
Our approach to medicine has never been more polarized. At one end, we have the extreme of television commercials aimed at patients to convince them to be their own doctors, and at the other end, we have a "natural" community that thinks you're lazy/stupid/ignorant/bad if you can't go out, pick some weeds, and heal yourself.
The result of this type of either/or, black/white, extreme thinking is that it puts well-meaning, good human beings in the middle and it squishes them.
For example, I have a dear friend who just made a really smart and long thought out decision about some medicines. She did the RIGHT THING, but she felt guilty for it. And she feels judged. She is a wonderful human being full of love and she should neither feel guilty nor judged by other people who have no idea what she has been through.
Another example from recently: Marcy read one of my posts about love being the cure, and she is the one who taught me that love is the cure. But she is also smarter than me when it comes to love and she pointed a couple of things out to me.
First, Love is the Cure when it is good, nurturing, unconditional love and how many people have that?! How many people even know what that looks like, much less where to find it. This makes me so sad. It makes me sadder to think I have made anyone feel badly about this lack of unconditional, helpful love in their lives.
Second, she pointed out that sometimes loving someone into a cure includes medication, because that is where there are at and unconditional love is loving people where they are. Period.
In an ideal world, I would like to take all the people in pain and put them in love houses like they are doing in Finland. I would like to surround people with that kind of healing love and show them that it is through relationship that we heal each other and are healed.
That is the ideal world. In which we do not live.
For now, I will extend my apologies to anyone whom I may have hurt in previous discussions of this material, and I will extend love to you all.
You are loved.
You are made of love.
You are worthy of love.
May you find and know deep, unconditional, nurturing, God-like love in this lifetime and beyond. May you give that love to others.